Training the Mind

Create a Valentine’s Day miracle, day 5

Over the past few days you have been asked to remember when you were loved, received and gave love and finding things to appreciate about yourself. Today we will put those things together to give the mind some new pathways so you can create the love you want in your life.

We are all on a healing journey, our entire lifetime is dedicated to some aspect of healing. And this healing journey is a process, where we go from one step to the next, addressing one issue at a time. Sometimes these issues seem insignificant and other times they seem overwhelming. The small issues are usually the ones that are the most important and the large issues are just a collection of smaller issues. Since the mind does not differentiate between important and non-important matters (all things are important to the mind), we have to deal with the process of healing through our emotions, which is where we make judgments about the value of our experiences.

Within our emotional body we make judgments by how we feel, so it doesn’t matter how big or small the situation is. When we feel bad we remember that situation and try to avoid it at all costs. Things that make us feel good we try to repeat. Which is why we continue to seek love, no matter what our previous experience of it is. But without going through the process of healing, we will choose experiences of love that make us feel good, according to our memories, and we can choose the same kind of relationship over and over again.

So for today, we are going to work with the mind and emotions to create a new path for them to follow when choosing relationships (of any kind) and the path that we want to walk. Unless you consciously give the mind and emotions a new set of instructions to work with they will choose from your past experiences, even the ones you do not want to repeat. You want to feel the joy of love but you want to do that in a context of being able to create love that won't have painful consequences. To do that you have to train your mind to think in different ways.

How do you teach the mind new information? By getting clear on what you want, writing it down and reading it many times until it becomes part of your thinking. So we are going to create a relationship wish list but in a different way. Instead of making a list detailing what you want your partner to be, you are going to make a list of what you want in a relationship. This could include wanting love, honor and respect, to have emotional support, appreciation and who shows you kindness and consideration. Someone who can give you the love you have previously received and who can appreciate all of the wonderful things about you. This is where the lessons of the past few days come in. Do you have your lists because you can use them to create the list of what you want in a relationship. And this can be for any kind of relationship, including the one you have with your friends, family and people you work with.

Put your list in a place where you will be able to read it at least once a day, remember you are training your mind to think in new directions and that takes a little time—it takes 21 days to change a habit, including your habitual thinking.

Make your list as long or as short as you want and you can add to the list as you need to. When you focus on what you want you give the Universe a template for helping you create it. And you get very clear on what you want and know what to focus on.

Have fun with your list, be honest and specific and remember, it’s your reality and you are creating it with every thought and word.

Until tomorrow, wishing you the blessings of love in these miraculous times,
Jennifer