Love Yourself

Love Yourself -- Day 4

Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, it’s the one day of the year that celebrates romance—in the form of relationships and when you are not in one and wish you were, all of the media hype showing happy, smiling couples lovingly embracing and exchanging gifts (remember, they are actors and models) can make you feel pretty terrible. You still have a few more days for your Valentine’s Day miracle to manifest—if yours was to create a new love. But even if you do not, this week is for you, to help you become the person who will attract the love you seek.

The greatest misconception about love is that we are fulfilled, happy and blessed when we have someone in our life to show that to us. But that is not true. When we recognize our own worth and can love and appreciate ourselves is when we can create a loving, fulfilling and happy relationship. We find what we need when we do not need it; instead we want it because it completes our life, it doesn’t fill any gaping holes that we believe exist. If we start from the point of wanting someone in our life to prove that we are lovable and worthy of love, we are starting from the point where we do not love ourselves. And you know that the Law of Attraction states that whatever energy we are vibrating at is what we attract, so when we do not love ourselves, we attract people who also do not love themselves.

How can someone give you something they don’t have? They can’t and that is why so many relationships end, because one or both partners are looking for the other one to give them what they feel they can’t give to themselves. The relationship may start well but eventually the need for love that each person has will consume the relationship and it will end under the weight of its unfulfilled needs.

So how do you prevent that? That’s the point of today’s exercise. Today you are going to celebrate yourself. Write down or think about at least five qualities that you love in yourself. Are you smart, charming, do you have a nice smile, can you cook a great meal? Are you a loving parent or spouse (this works for married people too)? Can you make people comfortable, do you communicate well or have compassion? Do you paint, draw, play music, sew or garden? Focus on anything that you really love about yourself.

Then, as you go through your day and you see the photos of smiling, loving actors and models, before you think that you wish you had what they do, remind yourself of the wonderful qualities that you do have. This is how you raise your vibrations and take yourself out of the neediness of wanting a relationship to knowing that you are creating a relationship that will last because you already love yourself and the partner you attract will be at that vibration and will be able to love, honor and cherish you.

Until tomorrow, wishing you the blessings of love.
Jennifer